How Does Body Language Impact Us?
While I was having lunch in a public space, I noticed several people almost lying in their chairs while talking, people shuffling their shoes and sitting in a hunchback as if carrying a backpack full of stones on their back. Are people aware of how much our body language says? How much does it affect interactions with clients, co-workers and future opportunities?
Positive body language ensures the development of positive relationships, influence and motivate others, and improve productivity. These details inspire confidence, credibility and a positive attitude:
1. Stand and sit upright:
Standing up correctly we look better - our grandmothers were right when they told us "stand up straight, head looking at the horizon and shoulders back". When seated - both feet should always be on the floor and arms at the sides, never resting crossed on the thighs.
2. Maintain positive eye contact:
We need to maintain eye contact between 50 to 60% of the interaction with others. We should avoid getting distracted by what we see on our phones, who we see passing by. A simple technique is to look at the other person's eyes long enough to realize what color they are.
3. Talk with your hands:
When we incorporate gestures into interactions, verbal content improves and the use of fillings such as "ums" and "uhs" disappear. The ideal is that the hands speak under the chest, open and semi-open, to avoid that we look aggressive or abrasive.
4. Reduce nerve gestures:
When we are nervous or tense, we move our feet, play with the pen, with our hair or nails - and automatically lose credibility. Calmness projects confidence.
The brain prefers cheerful faces. We can even identify one 300 feet away. A study from Duke University validated that we always remember those people who smile at us. Better yet, that smiling influences directly how people respond to us, because we manage to change the mood of others positively.